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Dating safely

Most people you meet are exactly who they say. These habits protect you from the few who aren’t.

Protect your privacy if you're not out

Use an email address just for dating, and think about a second phone number. Pick photos with plain backgrounds that don't show where you live or work. Remove location data from photos, and check your privacy settings.

Source: Electronic Frontier Foundation: Security tips for online LGBTQ+ dating

Meet in public, and know where to get help

Meet somewhere public first, tell a friend where you're going and keep your phone on. Screenshot a profile if you're worried, as it can be deleted. If someone threatens to out you, robs you or blackmails you, it's not your fault. In the UK, Galop's helpline is free and confidential, and it can talk through your options whether or not you want to go to the police.

Source: Galop: Helpline

Never send money, and report scams

Never send money or gift cards to someone you haven't met. In England, Wales and Northern Ireland, report fraud to Report Fraud at reportfraud.police.uk or 0300 123 2040. In Scotland, call Police Scotland on 101. In the US, report to the FTC at reportfraud.ftc.gov and the FBI at ic3.gov.

Source: Report Fraud: Report Fraud service goes live

Further readingOur sister site Smooch explains how romance fraud works and how to report a romance scam in the UK. WhichDating, our sister review site, explains the signs of a dating scammer.

Dates, friendship and relationships for gay and bi men across the UK and US, plus ideas for meeting off-screen too.

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